Welcome to Debbie Ballard's Transgender Information Site.

 Deborah Ballard aka Debbie Lawrence is a transgender woman with nearly 40 years of IT experience, nearly 40 years of transformational programs including 12 step programs, leadership training programs, open source support groups, transgender support groups and websites.  Debbie has written 6 books on transgender issues, so far.

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President Obama did exactly what the Constitution of the United States REQUIRES him to do. In this case, states have opted to revoke the 1st, 4th, 5th, 8th, and 14th amendment rights of transgender students.

Forcing a transitioning transgender student to shower and go to the bathroom with boys forces them to be exposed to cruel and unusual punishnment. Even a pre-transition boy often experiences severe beatings, whippings, and sexual assaults, for being so "Girly" or being a "Sissy".

Keep in mind that a transgender girl who is anywhere near the age of puberty is practically begging her doctor to block the production of testosterone, to chemically castrate them. Even though the medications will shrink their genitals by up to 75%, transgender girls hate their "boy bits" and would have them removed in a heartbeat if the laws allowed it. Medical guidelines force transgender girls to wait until their 18th birthday. Under special circumstances, they can have GRS at 16.

If the GOP wants to have a discussion about what constitutes a legitimate transgender girl, I think that's very appropriate. There are already some standard guidelines that have been recommended by the Medical profession.

A boy can't just go to the coach and say "I'm transgender, I want to shower with the girls". There are a few other things that a transgender girl has to do first. She WANTS to do it, but it is part of standard treatment protocol recommended by WPATH.

First, a transgender girl must get "Real Life Experience" (RLE), which means they have to look, act, and dress like a girl every day for at least most of the hours away from school. Often, they start the process after school, at home, with a few girl friends who know and understand. The transgender girl often socializes with girls from a very young age, so the girls often see that he is transgender even before the transgender boy is aware of it.

The real life experience goes from an hour or two a day, to 60-100 hours a week, all the time that she is not at school. At school, she still has to pretend to be a boy, as best as she can. Often, it is during this period that the parents first contact the school administration to determine when the child will go to being a girl full time.

Normally, a the child will live full time, 24/7 as a girl during the summer vacation prior to the September that she will start school full time as a girl. Once she starts school as a girl, she must continue to look, act, and dress, like the other girls. Of course, she wants to dress like the other girls, she naturally acts like the other girls, and with help from the other girls, even in a locker room, she would look like the other girls.

Keep in mind that transgender girls don't THINK like boys. A boy sees a pretty girl in a pretty dress, with her hair nicely done, and well done make-up and thinks; "She's hot, would she go out with me?" A transgender girl looks at the same girl and thinks:
I love that dress, I wonder where she got it, I hope they have it in my size,
I wonder if I could fix my hair like that, my hair is probably too straight, but I'll talk to her about that.
I like how she does her make-up, I should try the light shadow to bring out my eyes too.
I'll invite her to hang out with me and the other girls.

Even if she is attracted to other girls, she is more likely going to want to have the other girl make the move, so she is not going to put herself at risk of not only being rejectetd, but also of being rejected by ALL of the other girls. Girls are her friends.

A transgender girl in the showers or locker room would be as modest as any of the other girls. She'd probably keep herself covered, possibly even showering in a gaff or similar hiding underwear. More often, the school arranges a private area so she can take her shower without exposing herself to the other girls, or she would take a shower earlier or later, so that she isn't standing with her hated "bits" showing for the world to see.

If the girls DID see her bits, they wouldn't see much. The hormones would not only shrink the penis to about 1/2 inch or less, but would make erections completely impossible. To a normal cisgender boy or man, this would seem to be a fate worse than death. But to a transgender girl, an erection is hated, ejaculation is gross, and the LAST thing they want to do is show off their big erect "junk". Even in the early stages, the "tuck" while still possible, normally makes arousal both painful and pretty much impossible. Later, they pack it into the scrotum, making it even more impossible.

Quite simply, your daughters are probably under far less threat by a transgender girl in a locker room than they would be with a cisgender boy at a party or a date. She's probably safer with the transgender girl than she would be at church.